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Book Review: The Genius of Opposites

For many years I’ve been advocating for a balance between extroverted and introverted leaders, yang and yin. I’ve been pointing to the synergy that results from these key partnerships where each deeply values the other. Therefore, I was so excited to see Jennifer Kahnweiler’s latest book not only advocating the same thing, but giving practical and helpful advice to both sides of the equation. Her book is a much needed reminder that the best results often arise from a partnership of opposites. She does a great job showing this reality with historical and contemporary examples. She also provides us with
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Introverts: Use Social Media to Up Your Networking Game

By Jennifer Kahnweiler, Ph. D. Jennifer Kahnweiler is one of the leading experts on introverted leadership.  Ironically, she’s an extrovert.  This means that she is dedicating the majority of her life to helping people who are different from her.  As Ben Franklin said, “Justice will not be served until those who are unaffected are as outraged as those who are.”  Jennifer is a great example of an extrovert caring enough to serve introverts in an attempt to help restore balance in the workplace.  Here are some practical tips from Jennifer on leveraging introverted strengths through effective use of social media:
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Socially Acceptable Discrimination

What do these four statements have in common? “I don’t think we’re ready for a black president.” “Women need to accept their place and stop trying to act like men in the workplace.” “I’m sorry I didn’t realize that you were Jewish, we try to hire team members from within our own.” “Introverts can’t be leaders. Leaders need to be charismatic, decisive, take-charge kinds of people.” Your answer? “Ignorance. Bigotry”? These statements (at least the first three) trigger appropriate feelings of anger in most informed civilized people. Obviously, the first three statements are clear examples of unacceptable and illegal discrimination
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Yin Leadership Challenge: Submissiveness and Passivity

Focusing on our strengths, building on them as opposed to our weaknesses is critical.  I have found by experience, however, that there is a difference between building on strengths and ignoring areas of weakness.  My honest opinion is that we benefit from both building and focusing on strengths and working to minimize obstacles and challenges. One of the most common challenges for more introverted leaders is a tendency toward submissiveness, or even passivity.  In the original theory that underlies the DISC assessment that I use to measure aspects of different behavioral styles, the D and the S were seen by
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A Conversation with a Rabbi About Introversion

I recently had the good fortune of meeting Rabbi Dan Fink from Congregation Ahavath Beth Israel in Boise, Idaho.  We met in the context of my introduction as a coach of introverted leaders and began to discuss introversion as it relates to faith and leadership.  We recently met to continue our conversation at a local coffee shop in Boise.  If you were a fly on the wall, here are some of the thoughts that you would have heard us exchange. Highlights from our conversation that are meaningful to introverts: • According to Rabbi Fink, God appears to have introverted traits,
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Bacon Coterie with Justin Foster

Recently had a chance to chat on Google Hangouts with Justin Foster.  Justin is a branding expert and a star in the Price Associates constellation.  Justin interviewed me about all things related to introverted leadership.  We even ended up talking about the Big Bang Theory.  Here’s the video on Justin’s site.
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Yin Leadership Strength: Wisdom

Abraham Lincoln, one of the greatest leaders of all time and a famous introvert, famously said, “Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak and remove all doubt.”  How does remaining silent connect to wisdom?  Lincoln’s quote points out the ironic truth that when people don’t say anything we can’t tell whether they are wise or foolish.  Being quiet itself is not the goal.  Wisdom rightly discerns when to say something and when to wait and think things through to a wiser conclusion before opening one’s mouth.  If there is one thing that is true of
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Yin Leadership Strength & Challenge: Loyalty

Loyalty is the capacity to stick to and stand by a person, a cause or an organization.  People who are loyal remain committed to people or things in good times and bad.  The opposite of loyalty would be some version of fickleness or fair-weatheredness.  It’s easy to stick with someone or something when things are going well.  But when things get difficult . . .  True loyalty is often very costly.  It frequently involves the willingness to stand by someone at great personal expense.  On the whole, there appears to be a shortage of loyalty today.  Americans, as a whole,
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Yin Leadership Challenge: Self Acceptance

Carl Rogers built an entire counseling theory on the core human need for self-acceptance. Believing that the rejection that we have experienced from significant others is at the root of our psychological struggle, Rogers set out to give his clients a gift: unconditional positive regard. What we now know is that this aspect of Rogers’ theory is the greatest factor in the therapeutic relationship. Being accepted by others as we are opens the door for us to begin to accept ourselves. I would argue that no greater struggle exists for an introvert than the possession of self-acceptance. Because our nature
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