Archives for introversion

4 More Layers of People That Are Confused with or Compound with Introversion

Awareness of introversion as a normal and healthy trait in over half of the population is growing.  With the release of Susan Cain’s Quiet in 2012, a quiet revolution has begun.  Slowly the bias toward extroversion in the West that has been assumed for so long is beginning to be questioned. As I continue to study the topic of introversion and to reflect on my own experiences as an introvert, however, there are four more layers that seem to be latently connected to or are frequently confused with the construct of introversion.  For this reason, it is hard for me
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Secondary Damage from Charleston

This past week was a hard one for the nation, the state of South Carolina and the city of Charleston. It was filled with the pain and sorrow that results from one person insanely deciding to take the lives of those he valued as worthless. No one is suffering more than the loved ones of the nine victims left behind. Our prayers and thoughts remain with them. We admire their courage and are inspired to see the way the community has responded with love in the face of hate, joining together to begin the long process of healing if ever
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Socially Acceptable Discrimination

What do these four statements have in common? “I don’t think we’re ready for a black president.” “Women need to accept their place and stop trying to act like men in the workplace.” “I’m sorry I didn’t realize that you were Jewish, we try to hire team members from within our own.” “Introverts can’t be leaders. Leaders need to be charismatic, decisive, take-charge kinds of people.” Your answer? “Ignorance. Bigotry”? These statements (at least the first three) trigger appropriate feelings of anger in most informed civilized people. Obviously, the first three statements are clear examples of unacceptable and illegal discrimination
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Detox

Toxins are poisons that build up in our system over time.  It has become common in our culture for individuals concerned with their physical health to do a “detox,” a process of cleansing the body from the build up, giving the liver and the other organs that collect toxins a fresh start.  In our society, we also call the process that someone goes through as they seek to overcome a substance addiction “detox.”  Those detox processes can be quite severe and often require medical oversight as the patient’s body reacts to the withdrawal of the substance on which it has
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Four Reasons CEOs Should Understand Introversion

As the leader of your organization, it behooves you to be fully and actively informed about introversion as it relates to your organization.  You may or may not have become aware of the recent discussion about introversion in the American workplace.  For most of the last century, we have existed under a cultural assumption that Susan Cain has called the “extrovert ideal,” the idea that real leadership = extroverted leadership.  In 1996, Peter Drucker commented that he saw no connection between good leadership and the charismatic aspects of extroversion. The one and only personality trait the effective ones [leaders] did
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A Conversation with a Rabbi About Introversion

I recently had the good fortune of meeting Rabbi Dan Fink from Congregation Ahavath Beth Israel in Boise, Idaho.  We met in the context of my introduction as a coach of introverted leaders and began to discuss introversion as it relates to faith and leadership.  We recently met to continue our conversation at a local coffee shop in Boise.  If you were a fly on the wall, here are some of the thoughts that you would have heard us exchange. Highlights from our conversation that are meaningful to introverts: • According to Rabbi Fink, God appears to have introverted traits,
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Bacon Coterie with Justin Foster

Recently had a chance to chat on Google Hangouts with Justin Foster.  Justin is a branding expert and a star in the Price Associates constellation.  Justin interviewed me about all things related to introverted leadership.  We even ended up talking about the Big Bang Theory.  Here’s the video on Justin’s site.
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Introversion: Independent or Interdependent?

Clash Two cultural psychologists, Hazel Markus and Alana Conner recently (2013) published Clash: 8 Cultural Conflicts That Make Us Who We Are.  It’s a brilliant look at the things that tend to divide us from one another.  Among the things they discuss are: masculinity/femininity, ethnicity, socioeconomic class, regional distinctions, religious differences, workplace sectors, global north / south economics. Overriding these cultural differences, they see a core clash between independence and interdependence.  When the authors connected independence to western culture (yang-dominant) and interdependence to eastern culture (yin-dominant), I immediately connected the dots to the conversation about introversion and extroversion.  Here’s how the
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It’s All In Your Head

With the advent of the fMRI, PETscans and other means of exploring previously less understood inner workings of the human brain, our understandings of introversion and extroversion have been greatly advanced. Our language, however, often still reveals our ignorance on these matters. “Stop being so introverted. You’re in your head too much; it’s depressing. Let loose, have some fun.” We might just as well ask a leopard to change his spots. Far from being a choice or preference, introversion at one end of the continuum is actually visible in brain scans. At either extreme of the spectrum marked on one
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