Archives for shame


Toxins are poisons that build up in our system over time.  It has become common in our culture for individuals concerned with their physical health to do a “detox,” a process of cleansing the body from the build up, giving the liver and the other organs that collect toxins a fresh start.  In our society, we also call the process that someone goes through as they seek to overcome a substance addiction “detox.”  Those detox processes can be quite severe and often require medical oversight as the patient’s body reacts to the withdrawal of the substance on which it has
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Coming Out of the Closet

Published previously on LinkedIn We store things in closets. They aren’t made for people; they are made for things. Perhaps the reason people are found in closets has to do with the way we have failed to treat them as people and instead have treated them as if they were things. This is yet another aspect of what Simon Sinek calls “the problem of abstraction,” not seeing people as people. I’ve never much liked closets. The closet is a place of darkness, of isolation. There are no windows. It doesn’t necessarily smell good. The air doesn’t move. It doesn’t feel
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